Monday, April 21, 2014

Two Faced: How Do We Judge People

The other day I stumbled upon my journal from when I was about sixteen and found a quotation 
I had written in it, "If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each mans life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility." - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 
This got me thinking about how we judge people not knowing much about them, 
making all kinds of assumptions never bothering to ask. It made me wonder how much of our judgments come from what we see and how many come from how we are treated by the people themselves. I know that I find at work, when I wear harsher more intense makeup looks it affects how easily people open up to me. I now tend to wear more subtle makeup looks and lipstick colors that are more generally accepted. 
Why is it that we judge things we know little about based on, well, face value.
I am in no way saying that I am without fault in this area, oh no, I have done this many times before because that is the world we live in. I'm not sure when we start this business of flip judgment or what age we start viewing things so black and white. I decided to do this post as a display of how you can take one person and dress them up however you'd like and that dressing does not define them. 
If I wear black lipstick or a nude gloss that does not affect the actions or the attitudes of my heart.
I am challenging myself in this as well to not see a person and make assumptions about them because truly we know nothing about the secret lives that people lead behind closed doors. You can have a traditional looking person filled with rage anger and malice and some may judge them as a fine person on the flip side of the coin you could find a person who looks nontraditional with a kind, giving and loving heart and they could be assumed a villain. 

I am the same person in this picture I just have my makeup done differently on 
each side of my face. I have been broken, back stabbed and angry and I have been joyous, loved and at peace, perhaps both sides are correct. People don't fit neatly and nicely in the boxes we put them in and slap a label on, claiming we truly know them . 
This also shows how much makeup can do. It can change not just how we 
see others but how we see ourselves. We can walk with a different spirit, a different confidence, a whole new outlook. 
"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest fight and battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting."
 - E.E. Cummings
Be yourself and allow others to do the same and in doing so make the world a little sweeter. 
xoxo,
Amanda